Social distancing and restrictions on entering skilled nursing facilities continue to be in place across the nation. We know, as elder law attorneys, this can make it more challenging to be able to interact with your loved ones who may currently reside inside of them. We also know that this inability to interact personally may also cause you additional stress since you may not be able to physically “see” your aging loved one.
The first step to alleviate this concern and to also help your loved one, starts with making a plan. What should you plan for?
- Plan to communicate with your loved one and the care team.
- Plan to be involved, and stay involved.
- Plan to be available to answer any questions for your aging loved one.
- Plan to be available to advocate for your aging loved one.
We know you may have questions on how to best tackle this responsibility, especially in light of the ongoing issues from the pandemic.
1. Be in frequent communication. Communication is critical right now. Whether it is with your loved one or not, the nursing home needs to know that you are involved. Of course, you want to participate with your loved one who is in the facility but it is equally important to speak with his or her care team. The care team may involve doctors, nurses, and therapists, as well as other specialists. Make contact and ask to be provided with an update at least weekly, if not more frequently.
2. Participate in meaningful conversations. If you are able to communicate with your aging loved one, try to make your interactions as meaningful as possible. Social distancing and visitation restrictions can make this more challenging, but there are ways to stay connected. In addition to phone calls, consider video chats like FaceTime or Facebook Messenger so your loved one can see you and your family. Also, during this time you can share photos and scrapbooks as well.
3. Advocate from anywhere. Remember that your aging loved one may need you more than ever right now. The lack of being able to go into a facility in person should not prevent you from speaking with him or her. Discuss with your loved one, if possible, and the facility what are the best ways for you to be involved.
We know this blog may raise more questions than it answers. Do not hesitate to contact us at any time to help you answer them. We are here to help you and your loved ones as you face these challenges.
