How Your Marriage May Change When Your Spouse Has Alzheimer’s

How Your Marriage May Change When Your Spouse Has Alzheimer’s

Your Child Turning 18 is a Big Deal, Here's Why

Receiving the news that your spouse has Alzheimer’s disease marks the beginning of a challenging journey filled with intense emotional and significant life adjustments. As you navigate this new reality, you may face unfamiliar roles and responsibilities, from managing daily tasks to providing increasing levels of care. Understanding how life with Alzheimer’s will change can help you adapt, offer the proper support, and maintain a loving connection with your spouse.

Changes in Roles and Seeking Support

An Alzheimer’s diagnosis will inevitably lead to significant changes in your relationship dynamic. As the disease progresses, your role may shift from partner to primary caregiver. Tasks that your spouse once managed independently, such as finances or household chores, may now fall on your shoulders. It’s crucial to anticipate these changes early on and seek support from family, friends, or professionals who can provide an extra helping hand. One of the best ways to take care of yourself and your spouse is to reach out and ask for support wherever you need it. Beyond seeking support, you may find comfort in establishing a routine and educating yourself further on the disease.

Maintaining Your Mental Health

Caring for a spouse with Alzheimer’s can take a toll on your mental well-being. It’s essential to prioritize self-care among the demands of caregiving. Ensure you get enough rest, eat well, and exercise regularly to maintain your physical health, which directly impacts your mental health. Don’t hesitate to lean on your support network—friends, family, or counselors—who can offer emotional support. Taking care of yourself by staying active and enjoying your usual hobbies can help alleviate stress and keep you in a healthy mindset, which will in turn help you better care for your spouse.

Adapting to a Different Life Together

As Alzheimer’s progresses, your relationship with your spouse will evolve. Communication may become more challenging as their abilities decline, impacting both emotional and physical intimacy. It’s important to find new ways to connect and enjoy life together. Engage in activities that your spouse can still enjoy, such as listening to music together or going on walks. Remember to be patient and compassionate, recognizing that their behavior and physical activity will change due to the disease.

Updating Your Estate Plan

Facing Alzheimer’s ensures the need to update legal and financial documents promptly. Ensure necessary paperwork—including wills, power of attorney, and healthcare directives—reflects current wishes and arrangements. Consult with our legal team or a trusted estate planning firm for legal and financial guidance to navigate these updates effectively. Addressing these matters early can ease future uncertainties and ensure your spouse’s wishes are honored.

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The experienced attorneys at Miller Estate and Elder Law are here to help guide you through the new life changes Alzheimer’s may bring. Contact us today at (256) 251-2137 or by filling out the form below.

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Your Child Turning 18 is a Big Deal, Here’s Why

Your Child Turning 18 is a Big Deal, Here’s Why

Your Child Turning 18 is a Big Deal, Here's Why

Turning 18 is a meaningful milestone—not just for teenagers, but for their parents, too. It marks the transition into legal adulthood, which brings with it a whole new set of rights and responsibilities. Your child can now gamble, get married, and even buy a house! And, while this all sounds very exciting, as a parent it’s essential to understand the implications of this transition. You need to make sure that your child is prepared for the many changes that come along with adulthood, and that you have what you need to continue supporting them through this transition.

Does Your Child Have These Essential Legal Documents in Place?

Before singing “Happy Birthday,” it’s important to remember that your child will need certain legal documents in place as soon as they reach the age of majority. These documents are crucial to protecting your child and empowering you to continue supporting and assisting them as they take on the complexities and responsibilities of adulthood.

At 18 years old, your child will gain new legal rights—voting, signing contracts, and making medical decisions—but, as their parent, you will lose access to their medical records, financial information, and other sensitive information.

This is where the 3 essential estate planning documents come into play. By having a healthcare proxy, a HIPAA authorization, and and a durable power of attorney in place, your child can designate trusted individuals—like you, as their parent—to make medical and financial decisions on their behalf, should they become unable to do so themselves. These documents ensure that you can continue to advocate for your child’s best interests, even in challenging circumstances.

Of course, estate planning isn’t just about medical issues; it’s also about financial matters. As young adults transition into college and the workforce, they may need assistance managing their finances, accessing educational records, or dealing with legal matters. Having the right legal documents in place can streamline these processes and prevent unnecessary complications.

Becoming a legal adult is a significant milestone that requires thoughtful planning and consideration. Before they blow out their birthday candles, ensure that your child has the necessary legal documents in place to ensure peace of mind for all. Estate planning may not be the most exciting topic (especially for a teenager), but it’s essential for safeguarding your child’s future and making sure they have the support they need to succeed at every step of the way.

Let Us Help Secure Your Child’s Future

At Miller Estate and Elder Law, we know that there is no one-size-fits-all solution to estate planning. We’re here to guide you through the process of protecting you, your loved ones, and your legacy with care and personalized attention.

To help you get started, we’ve developed a FREE guide that explains each of the essential estate planning documents that anyone over the age of majority should have in place.

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Talking to Your Children About Inheritance

Talking to Your Children About Inheritance

Talking to Your Children About Inheritance

As we journey through life, we accumulate not only material possessions but also wisdom and experiences that shape our legacy. However, as we age, so do our children. We have taught them many valuable life lessons, including financial independence. Now, it is time for an in-depth conversation about inheritance and what will happen after we pass.

Open and honest communication with our partner and family, including our children, is crucial when discussing inheritance. Clear communication ensures that our legacy is passed on smoothly, setting our family up for success and giving us peace of mind.

No matter where you are in life, having an estate plan on paper is an important and selfless act for those you love. Creating a clear estate plan ensures that your assets are handled accordingly and by the person of your choosing. You’ve worked hard for everything you have, and now it’s time to ensure your belongings are passed on according to your wishes. But how do you approach this sensitive topic with your child?

Firstly, recognize that the conversation may feel daunting. However, it’s one of the most beneficial discussions you can have. By communicating your desires and intentions, you empower yourself to determine your legacy while providing your loved ones with clarity and peace of mind.

Estate planning offers a great number of benefits, one of which is a sense of security. Knowing that your assets will be transferred according to your wishes after you are gone can alleviate worry and uncertainty. Additionally, discussing your estate plan with your child removes the emotional burden of decision-making from their shoulders, fosters understanding and cooperation within the family, and removes any potential conflict.

Approaching the topic with empathy and openness is essential. Set aside time for the conversation, allowing everyone involved to express their thoughts, questions, and emotions. It is vital to give your child enough time and space to ask questions or express their concerns.

Transparency is also crucial. Be clear about your wishes, intentions, and the details of your estate plan. After all, the goal of this conversation is to leave things in place. Open discussions about beneficiaries, trusts, and decision-making roles can prevent future misunderstandings.

Taking clear notes and organizing necessary paperwork is essential to estate planning. Keep thorough records of important documents, such as wills, account information, and legal arrangements. Make sure your child knows where to find these documents.

Regular communication is vital. Periodically revisit your estate plan with your child to account for any changes in circumstances or wishes. This ongoing dialogue keeps your plan up to date and reinforces the importance of responsible financial management.

Estate planning can feel daunting, especially when involving delicate matters like your legacy. However, involving your child in the conversation can be a powerful way to ensure that your values and wishes are carried out with integrity. This can bring a sense of peace and assurance to both you and your family.

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If you are looking to initiate the discussion with your child and need assistance organizing your assets and estate for your family’s future, the skilled attorneys at Miller Estate and Elder Law are ready to offer their expertise.

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The Medicaid Look-Back Period, Explained

The Medicaid Look-Back Period, Explained

Assisted Living vs. In-Home Care: Which is Better for You?

Life is full of surprises and, unfortunately, not all of them are pleasant. Health emergencies are among the most jarring and life-altering things that can happen to you and your family. An unexpected medical event can change just about every aspect of your life, from your ability to earn an income to your entire family dynamic. If you or a loved one finds themselves facing an unanticipated trip to a nursing home, it can also be extremely expensive. Qualifying for nursing home Medicaid is one of the best ways to protect yourself from running through your savings, but eligibility is a tricky situation which involves planning—thanks to something called the Medicaid look-back period.

What is Nursing Home Medicaid?

Nursing homes are often prohibitively expensive for most families, with yearly costs generally exceeding $100,000 a year. Nursing home Medicaid is a way for families to receive assistance that will help defray these costs. Medicaid will often cover 100 percent of most essential nursing home services; including room and board, skilled nursing care, meals, rehabilitation services, medications, and maintenance. Some services that may not be covered include private rooms and specially-prepared food. While most nursing homes do accept Medicaid, this is not always the case, so it is important to always check.

How Does the Medicaid Look-Back Period Operate?

Nursing home Medicaid is considered a last option, only available for patients who have no other resources when it comes to payment. For this reason, patients that do not plan ahead may use up their entire savings before they qualify for Medicaid. Medicaid planning, though, can ensure that this does not happen. Medicaid eligibility is based on financial need and is subject to both a monthly income limit and a limit in the number of countable assets you possess. The key to qualifying for Medicaid without running through your savings is to spend down your countable assets or transfer them into non-countable assets. This may involve gifting your money to loved ones, setting up a trust, or using several other Medicaid planning strategies.

The problem with spending down your assets, though, comes from what is known as the Medicaid look-back period. This means that, when you apply for Medicaid, your financial picture over the last 5 years will be taken into consideration. If you suddenly find yourself in need of nursing home Medicaid, you cannot simply gift all your assets to a loved one. Any assets gifted during the last five years for less than fair market value will be taken into account in your application and can lead to a period of ineligibility. If you suddenly find yourself or a loved one facing a health emergency and needing to qualify for Medicaid, there are options that you can take. However, the best way to plan for Medicaid is to gradually transfer your assets over a long period of time, so you don’t find yourself scrambling at the last minute.  None of this should be done without a legal strategy designed and implemented with the assistance of an Elder Law attorney who understands the Medicaid rules.

Either way, nursing home Medicaid planning can be a tricky business, but it’s essential to maintaining your family’s physical, emotional, and financial health.

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If you have any questions about qualifying for nursing home Medicaid or the Medicaid look-back period, do not hesitate to contact the experienced attorneys at Miller Estate and Elder Law by calling (256) 251-2137 or by filling out the form below. We’re here to help protect you and your family!

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Assisted Living vs. In-Home Care: Which is Better for You?

Assisted Living vs. In-Home Care: Which is Better for You?

Assisted Living vs. In-Home Care: Which is Better for You?

If you have aging parents or other loved ones, you know what a difficult situation it can be. Your parents have always cared for you, and it can be painful to see them no longer able to take care of themselves. In addition to the mental anguish that can come with their aging, you may also find yourself having to make some tough choices. Among these choices, one of the most important—and most difficult—can be whether to hire in-home care for your loved ones or whether to move them to an assisted living facility where they can receive around-the-clock attention.

Pros and Cons of Assisted Living and In-Home Care

There are many factors that will influence your decision about which option is best for you and your family. These may include the self-sufficiency of your parents, your parents’ comfort, and the cost of each option, among other factors. There is no definitive answer to the question of assisted living vs. in-home care; everyone’s situation and needs are different.

Advantages and Disadvantages of Assisted Living

Assisted living facilities offer several advantages over other treatment options. These advantages mostly have to do with the level of service they provide. Assisted living facilities offer patients daily services, including prepared meals, help with medication, housekeeping services, and different levels of assistance with daily living activities, such as bathing or dressing. Although they do not offer the same level of healthcare supervision as a nursing home, assisted living facilities do offer 24/7 staff assistance should the patient need it, unlike most in-home options. In addition, assisted living facilities offer the patient the advantage of socialization and can prevent them from feeling isolated.

The chief disadvantage of assisted living facilities is the cost, which can be quite hefty. If you are considering assisted living options for your parents or other loved ones, there are resources that can help, such as Medicaid. While Medicaid will not cover the room and board associated with assisted living, it does offer home and community-based waiver services that can help defray some of the costs of the facility.

Advantages and Disadvantages of In-Home Care

In-home care is a cheaper, but less comprehensive, option than assisted living. If your parent does not require the more extensive services offered by assisted living, then in-home care can be a great way for them to receive the help they need, while remaining in a comfortable, familiar environment. In-home care also offers greater privacy than an assisted living facility and allows the patient to maintain their independence. Finally, it is usually a considerably more affordable option than assisted living—and financial assistance may be available as well. If your parent needs greater levels of care, however, in-home treatment may not be sufficient, and an assisted living facility may be a much more suitable option.

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If you have any questions about what care option is best for your family—and how to go about paying for it—the experienced attorneys at Miller Estate and Elder Law are here to help. Download our free guide to Caring for Aging Parents or contact us today at (256) 251-2137 or by filling out the form below.

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My Mom Has Dementia… Can She Sign Legal Documents?

My Mom Has Dementia… Can She Sign Legal Documents?

My Mom Has Dementia... Can She Sign Legal Documents?

Dealing with a loved one’s dementia can be an extremely tough situation. First of all, seeing a parent suffer from memory loss is often a heart-wrenching, emotional experience. But on top of all that, there are numerous legal questions that need to be addressed. Understanding a loved one’s wishes when they begin to suffer from the symptoms of dementia can be a difficult process, which is why it’s best to ensure that all of their documents are in place while they are still well. Afterwards, the question of their legal ability to sign documents becomes much trickier.

Can a Person with Dementia Sign Legal Documents?

If a parent is suffering from dementia and has not yet written a will or finalized their estate plan, this can put your family in a touchy position. You may wonder if it’s too late or if they are still legally able to draft and sign documents. The truth is that it depends on how advanced their dementia is and how lucid they remain.

In the state of Alabama, the standards used to determine an individual’s “legal capacity” to sign a document depend on the nature of the individual document. For example, if a person wishes to sign a durable power of attorney, giving decision-making powers to a trusted individual, the person needs only to be able to comprehend their own actions in signing the document. If, however, they are looking to execute a will, the standards are higher. They must be able to understand the nature and extent of their property as well as the identity of their intended recipients. Generally, a legal determination that is heavily informed by a medical assessment will be made—which determines whether or not a person is capable of knowingly signing a specific document before the signing can be carried out.

Preparing for the Future

Because you never know when you or a loved one may become incapacitated or otherwise become unable to make decisions, it’s important to be prepared. Drafting a will or establishing a trust, as well as filling out your healthcare documents, can let you and your family rest easy should anything happen. Among the most important healthcare documents to have in place are a durable power of attorney for finances and an advanced directive for healthcare.  An advanced directive contains a living will which has instructions about your medical treatment and end of life decisions.  The advanced directive also names a healthcare proxy who will be charged with making medical decisions on your behalf should you become unable to do so.

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